Welcome to the site. I am a major benefactor, but am not connected to the site in any other way. Since you are new, I thought I would share some of my insights and observations. Of the first 50 girls I donated to 27 have quit, 3 are questionable whether they will continue. Of the other 20, 2 have made it and three more are close. The other 15 will probably make it.

But it is work. In normal life, I am sure that guys hit on you all the time. But on this site, it is the girls who have to pursue the guys. Guys don’t score by walking into a bar and shouting to everyone, “Hey, I am available. Come talk to me.” Just blogging and saying you are available to chat will not elicit many responses, if any. Further, guys did not sign up out of the goodness of their hearts to give money to girls they do not know. Keep that in mind as you approach guys. They are not obligated to give or even message you. You should feel thankful when they do.

The girls seem to make it in one of two ways. There are a few girls who find one benefactor who donates enough to push them to their goal (usually giving 50% to 70%) of what they need. Those girls have worked hard to raise the first funds.

The majority of girls spend anywhere from an hour or two a day to four or five hours. A good sum of their money comes from messages (probably 40% or more). The rest from donations. My top girls got $1,400 and $800 at the time they made their goals. I was top donor for one and second largest for the other. But that also means a lot of their money came from a lot of other guys. How many guys do you need? Probably a minimum of six or eight. That may not seem like a lot, but many girls will write a hundred guys and get very few, if any responses. So be prepared to send a lot of emails without response. Remember, any time a guy does respond, it will cost him more than $1. You will have to make your initial emails interesting and enticing. Writing a paragraph or two about yourself can create interest.

One of the mistakes made here by girls is thinking guys will pay a lot for pictures. They do pay some and the racier and naughtier the more they will pay. But real success comes from developing relationships, putting puzzles, games, trivia questions– things that appeal to nerds like me and get them to message you with answers. (Bill Gates in his 12 rules of success says this: “Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one. And you’d better learn how to operate a computer.”) Pictures are great to get the initial donations, but getting the last donations and messages will require more.

This is not all inclusive, but hopefully helps you along your way.

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    CCR Says: March 30, 2007 at 1:57 pm

    Good written and well said, Atis. I will more likely follow up on different topics that you touched in your post. I am also quite astonished on how you look at it with quite similar eyes like me, makes me not feel alone there among benefactors. Read and think, Ladies this is so much true what Atis says.

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    tickle Says: March 30, 2007 at 2:08 pm

    hi to evry1 behind the scenes, and atis,, well! its about time someone said this from a guys point of view ! enough girls blog these things and not many girls listen, there are loads of girls joining recently without a thought as to how to acheive here,, i see blogs every day and yes, my self included sometimes, saying hi, im back come message me find out about blah blah blah, well why would they wont to find out about something your not giving a clue about!! i wouldnt want to ask well go on then tell me about it then, and it being about a girl trying a pair of shoes on (for eg!) i was once nieve,, and still am a little,, but yes like you said, the first messages and donations are easy,, i was nearly 200+ a week, but then dropped DRASTICLY! time and effort, thats the nature of the site without that, well dont bother, harsh but true,, its a dream to be on here, and if its not what you reallllly want, then you wont be here long,, you put the effort in, its that simple,, thank you for opening our eyes to this atis,, me include for sure ;-) xx tickle xx

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    Amanda Says: March 30, 2007 at 2:56 pm

    Great post Atis! My number one benefactor! :)

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    Metal Girl Says: March 30, 2007 at 3:17 pm

    Thank you for writing this Atis. I’ve done a few things on my profile and never got responses for any of them. I had send me your best Polish joke, Trivia, and favorite Limericks. Sometimes I feel like I am not interesting enough :).. I just don’t want to copy any of the other girls.. I keep my Mozilla browser open on my computers from 5 hours everyday on weekdays to 12 hours a day on weekends. I use my main browser for my other activities. So I am constantly doing something on the MFI site.

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    Skyler Rain Says: March 30, 2007 at 4:33 pm

    Great Blog Atis!! You are one of my fav bene’s and what all you touched on here is so true. I’m sure I can say I am guilty of writing a lame blog or two from time to time. You hit it on the head when you say you have to find new andcreative ways to get all your guys attention along with alot of time and effort…or as some of us have described it as a second job.

    I think one of the most important thing that needs to be addressed is to just be yourself!! I think that is one of the biggest things that will contribute to your success on here. No one wants to talk with a fake person or a lier either. Let the boobs be the only fake thing!!=)

    So nice to be able to hear some feedback from you guys for a change!! Great idea MFI team!!

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    Ian Says: March 30, 2007 at 7:37 pm

    Very well said. I would add that you may experience dry spells. If that happens, do loose heart, some times we get busy, and it may take a while to get back to you. DO NOT take it personal.

    I wish they could sticky this post, so that it’s always on the top of the news.

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    freckledcutey Says: March 31, 2007 at 12:28 am

    Agreed fully.Atis you did a wonderful job. You and I may not converse all that much but when we do I enjoy it fully.I may not always have the right things to say but I do speak whats on my mind and usually try to make sense of it.Hard task that is.I have noticed that I have tried to do things, just so I can keep your attention.But not really being myself I find that boring.I just want to be me and want your help because you like me for me. I spend alot of hours on this site and try my best…I’m here till the end and the brand new begining…

    I think that this site is a rock’n idea and I wish the best of luck to both sides..The girls and the guys….

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    Juicy Says: March 31, 2007 at 2:27 pm

    Well I know that I am one of the 2 that has made it that Atis has helped! I am honored to have meet him and for him to help me meant a lot to me! Atis is so right about what he says! What might work for one won’t work for another! Yes a lot of the girls have tired things on here and don’t look at that you are copying them becasue it might not work for them but work for you. After all your not here to impress the girls but the guys so You have got to do what appeals to them! Yes some of the girls will get jealous because you are doing what they are and so forth but so what they can get over it…You are here for you and your dreams! Most the girls here have issues with themselves and well it comes out all in the wrong ways if they see a “threat”! But Atis said it best “Just blogging and saying you are available to chat will not elicit many responses, if any. Further, guys did not sign up out of the goodness of their hearts to give money to girls they do not know. Keep that in mind as you approach guys. They are not obligated to give or even message you. You should feel thankful when they do.” When you post a blog make it just as meaningful as a personal message to the guys! Yes most girls read them but hey so do the guys and they really can get to know you more through the blogs than in the messages! The blogs I think at this point are starting to become boring to the guys! No I am not saying this to everyone, but mainly to the new girls! For example and not pointing anyone out but Skyler Rain’s blogs….she lets the guys know more about her on a personal level now. Yes we were all guilty of the whole one liner blogs or so forth but hey sometimes we have brain farts to and instead of blogging…just don’t blog! I know some girls say they feel that have to blog at least 2 to 5 times a day other wise they won’t get noticed…but in all fact you don’t have to blog that much! Blog at least once a day and well the guys can click on your name and see you last 200 blogs!
    But well said Atis, well said babe!
    Juicy

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    Cindy Says: March 31, 2007 at 5:42 pm

    Wow, pretty good blog you have here. I started this site thinking it would be fun to be on here and well what the hell try to achieve my goal. It’s harder than I thought and honestly I haven’t signed on in a few days because I don’t think i’m up for it. When i see that some girls have made it out there it pushes me to continue but I really don’t know. I’d love to get to know someone on here and have a great conversation, whatever they want to talk to but they just go off to lets see some pictures. Guys there might be some girls out there that don’t mind but a few of us, like myself, find that a bit rude. I know im on an implant website so I should probably shut up but I guess maybe this website is just not for me.

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    Casey Says: April 02, 2007 at 9:24 pm

    Atis, I haven’t been here long–well over two months, but you are right on the money with every single point you have made. I will use myself as an example, to maybe give the other girls an insider’s view! (you’re an insider too–its just that I am one of THEM!) I get on MFI a total of about 6 hours a day!! Though that is the minimum number of hours–many days, more. I log on as soon as I get up in the morning, usually once or twice during the day, and then most of my MFI time is after 9pm–mainly because that is when my family is in bed and I can devote the time for myself and my guys!! When first getting here, I messaged every single person on the Benefactor list. That is the hard part. Why? Because you learn what kind of messages get responses and what kind of messages don’t. I kept changing the style of my messages to see what got the biggest response, the whole time remaining ME and not someone else. Whether it is your wording, or your tone in writing, or your grammar–all these things matter. So–if you are not getting ANY responses, there is a reason…and I would look really close at what you are messaging them. Don’t get me wrong, you will get a low turn out of responses–however, you WILL get responses eventually if you keep at it and do what works for you AND still be yourself in the messages. Now…when it comes to percentages on totals here–once again–Atis is completely right. I just got my calculator out and of my total—–842 comes from messages and 1296 from donations—guess what? Exactly 40% from messages—which is why I spend at least six hours a day here! Now–on to the Friends part. Establishing bonds with people on your Friends list is the KEY and I will stress….the KEY to success at MFI. Yes–you will have the occasional person who would like to “buy” pictures, etc., but do not expect that your success will come from this. I have over 275 guys on My Benefactor list–however talk to 10 or 12 of them and have developed strong friendships. Of them I have received donations continuously from about 8. I don’t know where I’d be without these Friends. I mean–they probably make up almost all of my donations–I have got a few donations from “strangers” and I say that because those were from people wanting pictures and yes, I was happy to oblige. But without my strong bonds with my little group of FRIENDS I would have no success here at MFI. So Atis, I applaud your post–you are such a smart and observant man—as are the other two men that have blogged, Drone and CCR!!

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    delilah Says: April 03, 2007 at 8:02 am

    Wonderful advice, especially for someone like me who has just joined the site yesterday! Thank you for posting this!

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    Blue Eyes Says: May 16, 2007 at 7:27 am

    YOu are such a big sweetheart, you have probably helped each and every girl here at MFI. Your words help so many. I know they helped me and I just wanted you to know that YOU ARE SO SWEET I am so GLAD I MET YOU!!!

    XXX Muah,
    Blue Eyes

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    Jayda Says: February 18, 2008 at 2:35 am

    Very good advice…I totally agree. I also appreciate the great advice you have given me. Can’t complain about the conversation either!