Deleteable Benefactor Friends
by Jason: MyFreeImplants on January 12th, 2009Ladies, as per request, you can new delete benefactors from your friends list to help you focus on those friends that you regularly communicate with. Benefactors can always re-add you as a friend, and they’ll show up again in your friends list, but it won’t count towards the Top 20 list. Please note that you can not undo a delete however, so use this feature with caution as the only way to get them back on the list is for them to add you again.
January 12th, 2009 at 2:30 am
I think this is a great idea. I know some of my friends have several hundred ‘friends’ that have never written them. Kudos to you for thinking of the potential for manipulating the Top 20 list as well.
Hopefully my list won’t shrink too much.
January 12th, 2009 at 3:05 am
This is a great idea guys! I have so many guys on my friends list that I never here back from. It gets really frustrating having almost 200 friends and hearing back from 50 of them regularly. Great feature. Keep up the great work! Now, how about working on CHAT?
January 12th, 2009 at 3:30 am
Walter….who in there right mind would delete you? Your to adorable:D youve got me for life *Smiles* Yes great idea….i love it….i possibly will use this when im not so busy drumming up support into the hof…*Hint*…Kisses….Rachel xxx
January 12th, 2009 at 5:34 am
I look forward to beung deleted by some of you haha!
January 12th, 2009 at 6:43 am
This is an awesome improvement to MFI i think.. I spent so much time going through my lists of friends when i was working towards my goal and there were hundreds that i never spoke with.. Or that would never return my messages… Great Feature Guys…….
January 12th, 2009 at 7:22 am
On my way to delete Walter right now…..Heheheheh kidding hun!
Excellent feature! It would be nice to be able to get things more organized.
Tanx!
January 12th, 2009 at 7:24 am
I like that! I have some cleaning to do, hihihi! No fun in having a list full of guys that we don’t even know, and than have to be looking for our Friends, the ones that are there for us, and are hiden by the others that add us just because they feel like but, don’t even care about us!
Happy for the new improvement tool!
By the way…why can’t we add the guys too,
would be nice to fallow our fav bloggers 
I know…we always want something more…is just a thought!
January 12th, 2009 at 9:18 am
Maybe its me but I don’t see the benefit in this. I would much rather have the opportunity to ADD guys I wanted to possibly talk to rather than delete someone who I have not talked to YET, see yet being the key here. LOTS of guys that added me sent me one message towards the end and if they had seen I deleted them OFF the list, I can’t help but think they may would have thought twice about supporting me. I believe lots of adds may be from a blog they liked or a pic that was posted, maybe even a mutual friend from other girls. They of course cannot donate to ALL the girls here…but there was SOME reason as to why they added me to start with.
January 12th, 2009 at 9:18 am
I think this is a great idea. I just read Hot Lil Mama’s blog though, and I think we need to be careful, as I know some guys will add then stay in the background until the end, when they will come out of the shadows to help.
I think we all get a gut feeling when a guy adds us. Maybe they just want our “thanks for the add” pic. Maybe they’ll send us a pic in return for that. I know I have some guys on my list who I have blocked because they simply haven’t read my profile, and they end any chat when I refuse to send them nude pics or talk dirty. These are the guys that I will be deleting. For that reason, I think this is a great improvement. Thanks J’s.
January 12th, 2009 at 9:19 am
Deleting? what?! Wow, have it tough so many list as friends have to delete some when they haven’t offended in some way. Wow, I don’t know that burden having too many listed as friends. Some may never send a message then again they might send a donation when very close to goal, I wouldn’t have deleted any myself. Add our own list! that what I been thinking about a long time. my 2cents.
January 12th, 2009 at 10:03 am
I agree with Angelndisguise, I don’t get this at all. But if girls want to do it, fine, not sure why you would. They should have a way to add friends that we want to contact.
January 12th, 2009 at 10:37 am
Well it’s a little too late as i’m already in HOF but I really wanted this when I wasn’t in there… time to get click happy.
January 12th, 2009 at 10:43 am
Well personally from my opinion (which usually doesn’t matter to most people) I think this is a good opportunity for women to have more control over who’s on their friends list. I too, like most women here, have tons of guys on my friends list that have never messaged me. The only bene I deleted is one I’ve been wishing I could delete for a while now—He has a vulgar default picture and I firmly believe that as adult as this site is I should have the right to at least look at my friends with without having to worry who might be looking over my shoulder. I had even emailed this man and asked him to remove me from his friends list (rather than thinking he should change his default pic based on my opinion) and he wouldn’t do it. I really don’t know why to be honest, we never spoke. But it is what it is.
I do appreciate the ability to delete bene’s. Sometimes there are actually other things women don’t like about them besides the fact that they seemingly never write. We shouldn’t be forced to keep men on our list that we truly don’t want there.
I don’t really have an opinion on being able to add guys as friends, I never had a problem with not being able to. But I think a fun feature would be to be able to subscribe to blogs kind of like on My Space. Got a favorite blogger? Subscribe and get notified every time he writes a new one. (Or she, this feature could go either way!) And/or have a separate page to click on that you only see blogs you subscribed to. And it would be cool to be able to subscribe to either models or bene’s, there are several models here whose blogs I like to follow too.
Just another random thought from a scatter-minded blonde.
January 12th, 2009 at 11:12 am
I can see both sides of the opinions here! Many girls give out free pictures/videos for adds. Once those pictures/videos are sent they have what they added you for and can only hope you will send more free ones. So they keep you on their friends list! Why donate or message when they are getting things for free from you? On the other hand, some add you because they have found something in you they like! I agree that some of them might come out in the end and give you a surprise donation! I had two do that just shortly before I hit the HOF! Some do it because they enjoy your blogs and wish to be able to get to you quicker to read them! Either way, I would delete with caution! You never know who might pop up “last minute” and give you a helpful push! And like someone else said, some of the time, these bene’s are trying to catch you in chat in order to get to know you better! Just think before you go and start deleting a bunch of them!
January 12th, 2009 at 11:18 am
I guess as a benefactor it would be worthwhile me giving you an insight into my friends list. There are varying reasons I add a lady to my list but if they remain on my list for more than 10 days it is because they interest me in some way. Now I have 25 friends at present and could break them down into sections :-
1. There are 3 ladies I speak with regularly and help as I can.
2. There are 10 ladies who I have spoken to occassionally and messaged occassionally.
3. There are 7 ladies I have added but never heard from bur are still within the 10 day timescale.
4. There are 5 ladies I have added, they have messaged but I have never managed to contact them in chat as yet.
These 5 I follow frequently – but I have a golden rule – that is until I have chatted with someone I do not message or donate. If you want to know why I have that rule feel free to chat with me and ask. However, each of the 5 have something that really appeals to me and as such they will remain on the list indefinately.
As a final note, a while back I had a lady who had been on my list for a long time but never messaged or chatted despite her messaging occassionally – she appealed to me but I always missed her in chat – I caught her in chat the day she was pushing hard for HOF and then made a significant donation to get her over the line.
So be warned about just deleting friends for the sake of an easy list to manage – I can’t speak for others but guys usually have a reason to add you – and if you are added at least message to show an interest!! You’ll be amazed how many don’t. Finally – if a lady deleted me from her friends list it would take something exceptional for me to add her again!!
AJ
January 12th, 2009 at 11:33 am
Gee, if the women added the men, the Top Favorites and Most Friendly lists wouldn’t mean much because the woman could simply add EVERYONE to her friends list. Additionally, if a benefactor doesn’t like you, seeing you in his friends list after he deletes you multiple times might make him less than happy.
I just checked on the add feature. I successfully added the one woman (that I know of) who has me blocked to my friends list. I removed her immediately after the test. I can see that being able to remove blocked men from their friends list would be a good thing. Additionally, Forxfire79 brings up a good point about having an offensive photo in their friend list. Being able to remove them yourself is a very good thing.
Any hope that a woman can have a separate friends list she can add her own friends?
January 12th, 2009 at 11:40 am
my question with this is how does a benefactor know if a girl has deleted him or not. Just wondering. There are girl on my friends list who i have talked to a couple times. but then she hasn’t been on in a couple weeks. so haven’t talked to her. But how does a bene know if a girl deleted him or not. this feature has its adavantages and disadvantages i can see. not to offend anyone but what i see.
January 12th, 2009 at 12:18 pm
If a woman deletes you from her list of the friends, she simply won’t appear on YOUR friends list now. It is similar to a woman disappearing from your list when she deletes her profile or gets temporarily suspended from MFI.
January 12th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
I’m not sure I understand this implementation – if a woman deletes you once, you will never again count for here on friendliest or top faves? What if you kiss and make up?
Wouldn’t it have been better to put a visible flag on the friends list so the woman could choose to have you visible or not visible? As it stands now the woman isn’t really getting a very good choice – she can either abandon that guy forever or put up with him. If it were a simple flag that said visible/invisible, she could then have a multi-part page to show visible, invisible or both and perhaps to let her switch guys back to visible.
As it is now, guys may notice they’ve been deleted and take offense and it will cost the woman votes on two top lists even if the guy doesn’t notice or takes steps to be a better friend after being deleted once. Those two factors make this feature less desirable.
I am also in agreement that there should be a way for women to mark their favorites. I don’t believe benefactors should have any visibility to who has made them a favorite since it would become another point of contention/pressure on the site.
January 12th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
This is such a useful feature, thank you so much guys! It is something I would be hesitant to use if I was still working towards my goal, but once you’re in HOF it makes it so much easier to stay in touch with the guys you are in contact with regularly.
January 12th, 2009 at 1:35 pm
Ok, Drone’s visible/invisible idea would have been completely acceptable in my book.
January 12th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Oh,sure…. yet another way women can show their dissatisfaction with me…. thanks.
; )
The bigger question to me is: Why doesn’t a lady’s friend list ‘update’ according to the guys’ activity? It would be just like when I as a bene look at *my* friends list, but I’d be a women. Wait, I didn’t say that right, but hopefully you know what I mean….
And why not options for everyone, like ‘sort by add date’, ‘sort by progress/donations’, ‘sort by time since sign up’ etc. etc. etc.
Just my two cents, and I *know* someone will probably delete me for it….
January 12th, 2009 at 2:16 pm
Personally, I don’t know that this is something I would necessarily suggest using. But there were enough requests for it and it was an easy feature to implement, so we added it. I have heard of some stories of benefactors “lurking” in a girls friends list until the very end and then suddenly pushing her over the top into the HOF. So ladies, I’d be cautious in using this unless you know for sure you want to remove someone. We can’t tell everyone how to best use every feature of the site, as it’s different for everyone. We can only provide you with the tools. It’s up to you to figure out what works best for you!
January 12th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
I personally have no desire to go delete happy. But it is a good thing if you have to block someone you can get them off of your friends list. It gave me great satisfaction to delete the one person who was especially ugly and not have to see his smirking face next to the sweet smiling faces of my kind benefactors. Ladies def use this button with caution.=) Isnt it nice that MFI is trying to hear what we say to them! Lets fix the chat J’S!
January 12th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
I have only used this new feature to delete a couple of guys. One who has come into chat with me on numerous occasions only interested in dirty talk, and he immediately ended each conversation when I said that’s not what I was here for, and the other, because he came into chat on numerous occasions apparently forgetting each time that I don’t do nudes, and again ending the conversation each time. These are the only reasons I would use this feature.
I do think it would be good if we had a way to manage our friends list. At present (for the guys that aren’t aware), the girls’ friends’ lists are sorted by add date. A way of us organising our lists to have easier access to the guys we communicate regularly with would mean we didn’t have to search through all the pages to find that guy. For me, it’s not so much of a problem as I only have 123 guys who have added me, but this would certainly make things easier for the girls on Top Faves etc who have literally hundreds of friends. Just another thought.
January 12th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
Well done MFI. I am really excited about this new change! It was a great idea to add this…..woo hoo!!!
January 12th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Woooo.. not an exciting change at all!
January 12th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
I think it would be better to be able to organize the friend list or have it update according to activity,,I wouldn’t delete ANYONE!!!!
January 13th, 2009 at 7:42 am
I personally find no use in this feature, which seems to me a less offensive version of blocking a benefactor. Why not implement a private top 20′s or 50′s list — only visible to the ladies — for them to personally select the benes whom they find most favorable?
Also, by deleting benefactors, does that directly affect your position in the top 20′s??
January 13th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
It’s all about choices, I love it. The ladies have a certain amount of control. Be careful when deleting though girls, I had a guy push me into Hof right near the end and I had never spoke to him beofre that day!! use with caution!!
January 13th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
On the subject of deleting..why in the world can I not delete some of the pictures in my album???? I should be able to rearrange them however I see fit and have the ones up that I want! Whats the deal?
January 13th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
I guess I have only one comment to say . If the girl is going to delete a guy from her list then any feedback good or bad the both girl and benefactor should be removed so that there is no lashing out. People are people and I can see
the possibility of both parties having their feelings hurt and saying negative things to get back at each other.
I mean really if your deleting a guy then something more than he does not donate or we never chat is going on.
I have had girl on my friends list and when they hit the top 5 CTG I helped them out . I guess if they deleted me before that time they would have missed out huh. Just my opinion
January 13th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
I love this new idea. The only ones I deleted are the ones that i have tried to talk to ever sonce i have been on here and had not received 1 single message from them. Even the ones that have sent at least one message, if I have never heard from then since then, I kept them.
January 13th, 2009 at 6:54 pm
I’m with you Ginger, I think we need to be allowed to delete our photos at our convenience. I have a picture that was from Christmas of a cat saying “deck the halls with barfed up holly” and now that Christmas is passed there’s no point in having it and I can’t get rid of it. Good thing I took out all the seriously goofy pictures before this rule was in place, there was one of me from Hallowe’en with 2 green M&M’s up my nose. I’d be kind of pissed if that was stuck there indefinitely. lmao
I’m sure it’s just as easily fixed as it was to put in place.
There are some pics that are really only worth looking at for a short time. Knowing that this silly rule is in place makes me hesitant about adding ANY new pics at all. Isn’t it good enough that the guys can snag our pics out of our galleries while they are still there if they want to always be able to see them? I’ll add funny new pics as I see fit, but I will NOT add any new pics of myself as long as this rule is in place.
Take a hint J’s, this was an incredibly poor thought out rule.
January 14th, 2009 at 7:15 am
Seems like the ladies got one thing the wanted and lost something else. So… status quo!
January 15th, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Foxfire79, I want that green M&M photo…
January 16th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
Didn’t your mother ever tell you to be careful what you wish for?:P
January 16th, 2009 at 5:35 pm
You didn’t tell me they were PEANUT M&M’s. I guess you believe in the adage “If you are going to go, go BIG!!!”.
January 16th, 2009 at 6:12 pm
Well, I told you to be careful what you wish for. I’m just glad the J’s didn’t decide THAT should have been my HOF pic lmao. Although, it IS fitting…..
January 18th, 2009 at 8:36 am
I think this is a bad idea. Why delete people who might help you when you are in a rut? Maybe people shouldn’t advertise free pic. for add.
January 19th, 2009 at 8:29 am
I’m deleting everybody!!!!!!!!!!!! hehehehe…. NO WAY!!!! I’m not deleting anyone. I definately think the ladies should be careful about this deleting. On my LAST day here… the guys who had NEVER contacted me… NEVER responded to me… NOTHING… EVER… They were coming out from under their rocks to donate!!! So, sometimes you may have some quiet onlookers… people watchers… who like to watch… but not be very involved… who want to help… but not be “hooked”, so to speak.
WALTER — NOBODY is going to delete YOU!!!! =) We love Walter! MUAH!