MFI is a community much like any community. It has its good aspects as well as its bad aspects. Lately the not so pleasant side has been coming to the forefront. There seems to be more infighting being played out in the blogs than I remember even a month or so ago. This community is growing each day and perhaps this trend is just a side effect of the growth. I haven’t been here long enough to know if this is a normal cycle or a new trend.
I have noticed some of the veterans are getting tired of constantly reminding others why we are here and how to conduct ourselves in a considerate manner. I can see why once a woman reaches her goal and who has promised to remain on the site may have second thoughts. You can only bang your head against the same wall for so long before something gives. Lately, it isn’t the wall that has been giving.
As it has been said before, the last 200 blogs can be seen by the public without signing up for MFI. More blogs than those can be seen if one uses search engines sites that keep copies of older pages. It is hard to show MFI in a positive light when so much of the public content here takes a negative tone.
What I would like to see is for one day, only the good side of MFI shows. One day without public arguments. One day without complaints. One day without disparaging remarks. One day where everyone puts forth their best effort.
One day of faces rather than other body parts being used for the default profile picture. I believe faces are much lovelier than anyone’s backside, no matter how spectacular it is.
One day where your thoughts and ideas are written in your blogs. Let people know what makes you the special person you are. If the best you can say in a blog is “I’m horny” or “I’m bored”, perhaps a day of quiet reflection is in order. I know we can do better.
One day where there isn’t any nudity or implied nudity in the blogs or profile pictures. One day without explicit blog offers. You can still conduct your normal activities with your profile comments and private messaging. Whatever you do in private is of no concern. Just keep the public areas positive.
I’m thinking of making that day February 29th. Think of it as a ‘leap’ of faith and goodwill.
I know I’m asking more from the community than I can reasonably expect. Life isn’t very reasonable most of the time. I believe we can do this. I believe in the MFI community.
I also know I can’t do this alone. If you think this is a good idea, let your friends know.
Just one day.
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Leave A CommentFrom a member that has been here from the beginning really I have to say this. From the first time I started this site till now…this site has grown…I don’t think Jason nor Jay thought it would grow this quick and this big. Both have lived and learned with this site and are still doing the amazing job at keeping up with making it better. When I first started the blogs where for the girls to post a mass message of sorts to all her benes instead of message by message because some days she wasn’t able to reach each and everyone of them. It was a place where we could let the guys know that we wanted to do some pictures and that we had done pictures and what we was offering. That is why the blogs where started, this community has always been close and we all have our own picks. THE BLOGS WHERE AND ARE FOR THE MEN TO READ AND NOT INTENDED FOR THE GIRLS. That being said, however, the reason that the girls get to see and read the blogs is that when a girl signs up she can see that their are other girls here and seeing them reach their goals, not for all the girls to judge her blog. Grant me I don’t like it when I am scrolling through, I see some vajay vajay plastered right there in my face….my kids are usually around and HELL NO I don’t want them seeing that. Thus the rule was implied no nudity in profile picture. Not really hard to understand but I get it…some don’t know how to read, thus you see their funds so low!
But for every time that MFI does a story or is in the news…we have a new wave of both guys and girls joining. Just like with the rest of us, they are not sure as to what really needs to be done or how to go about it. The girls on one hand NEVER, hardly ever, go to the help section and read it, or go and actually read the terms of this site, so they jump in feet first and think because of the pictures they see posted…I have to be nude…that is the first impression most of the new girls gets. So off on that foot and then later find out no I don’t and end up regretting it. Either she is told by J & J or she sees it in the blogs. Same as with the guys, when they sign up, they think I will get to see these girls nude for free.
Not everyone is going to make everyone happy, but I know that J & J do what they feel is in the best interest of the site…period! Or maybe what is in their best interest but regardless…it is them who started this site so if you don’t like it…leave! Simple as that. Not trying to be rude or anything…but like someone already said…this is an adult site…go figure…what is usually on adult sites. HUMMM, I wonder!
I myself don’t even bother with the blogs anymore because they have become pointless. If I do click on them it is usually to see how my friends are that I have made here. But I honestly think that what the REAL problem is, that you have a bunch of girls that are trying to help other girls, but it is coming across as they are trying to tell them what they have to do on this site. How about the girls follow what the rules actually say and stop making the blogs a conversation between the girls…I for one I don’t mind at all the girls helping the girls…….I am all for that and I know Jay is on my side of the whole girls forum to help…but you can’t just let one girl do it and then how would pick which one will…
But maybe if the veterans…just stopped blogging and let the new girls have it….see what happens!(JK) THAT WOULD BE FUNNY AS HELL! But maybe I will email Jay on this one…cause I come up with an idear! LOL
Either way….glad Walter done this news section….sees to be fitting for you….and like they say, “You ask, you shall receive”!
Juicy
To me blogging is part of my community experience..many hof famers gave an answer to there 20 questions of no referals from there blogs that they wrote during there earning stage here, Well…I did meet 70% if not more friends through the blogs i wrote…Messages are important to of course,but i made most of my friends through blogging…And ive asked them wether i should stop blogging just because ive made my goal…There nswer is…No..dont stop blogging..Isnt that part of the community experience? Isnt that part of interaction? Isnt that part of being active? I dont see the harm in wecoming new girls here…Or giving advice which is asked for..Ive always enjoyed blogging, And hope to blog many more times: If for what ever reason i am wrong about the blog area: IE That i shouldnt contribute in any way,Im sure i will find that out…kisses…Rachel xxx
Great post Walter! XOXO Jess
It’s an essay!
I personally don’t think we’d all stand the same chance by merely showing our faces. Maybe I didn’t show mine as I was far too shy, and felt that some of my “body parts” were a lot easier on the eye. Hehe. I really think we should be allowed to determine what our strengths are, as some are blessed with angelic faces, others with great behinds! (and I don’t mean me – hehe) But I also do agree with “classy” for the defaults, although people’s opinion of classy can be so different, and I’m not sure if everyone agreed with mine being as such, even though I thought they pretty much were. I have some private matters that have made showing my face a lot more difficult, hence the “body parts”
Although I had no facial pictures in my gallery, my profile clearly stated that all someone had to do was to add me as a friend in order to have their nightmare! (private facial pic) Lol. I wish maybe I’d thought to have done this sooner, (as waited until I hit $1500 – which happened to be approximately 7 months after I joined) as I did seem to progress from then on – but perhaps that was because by then, I had made some really great friends whom just liked my messages?
I did also develop a blog phobia throughout my time here, probably partially derived from a very sarcastic comment I once received from someone I’d never heard from before nor did I again. (Basically, he commented on my being very happy at reaching 3K, saying it wasn’t that exciting…) I put so much thought into everything I did, it slowed down the amount I actually sent out, so for that to have happened made it a lot worse. I also had very few pictures that I was comfortable with sharing initially. Not that that put off my close friends, but I did turn down many many donations from others throughout my whole journey. I strived for quality over quantity! Whether I achieved that is a matter of opinion – but I do believe that we have to go for whatever we personally feel comfortable with.
I think the suggestions of somehow separating the blog types would be ideal, and making the raunchier blogs not public will help tremendously. It would mean though that if someone did usually put a little story in with their for sale items, they’d then have to separate the two. But worth it, if it attracts the attention they’re so seeking, and prevents the ones who do not want to read it from being offended or even criticising. Maybe a public and a private option, with the private one having to be selected, as a rule, if raunchy etc… Then that still covers the girls that aren’t writing a raunchy blog, but whom still prefer for it to not be public. Maybe the private box be checked as an automatic thing, to prevent newbies making a mistake, and if you’re comfortable with it being public, manually select public yourself.
Having said all the above, I will for Just One Day have my face as my default. I will also actually blog – I will choose blogs I’ve previously posted that I felt were worthy to be read blogs, and that shouldn’t have disappeared quickly under the many many blogs of whatever else. Maybe if the Top 20 bloggers list hadn’t disappeared, I’d have continued blogging in order to try and keep my place on it.
Also would like to add – that despite only showing “body parts” in my default, I achieved my goal without actually showing my full nakedness.
I’m certainly not ashamed to admit I am getting FREE boobies.
I would never ever have been able to save the money for this myself, (thank you my friends XXXXXX) as having 4 children, I’m positive something would always have cropped up to eat into any savings I did manage.
Whether or not I class my time as “free” is another matter entirely. Hehe.
But it was a price worth paying. 
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I am very glad that there are places that people can express their opinions and thoughts here on MFI..but I hate reading people’s blogs that downgrade other women for “Selling themselves” so to speak. Everyone has their own comfort level for what they will and will not do..and that’s fine…does not make us good or bad..just means we are our own person and can actually think for ourselves.
I have messaged J & J several times with questions or to just say hello and have always recieved an answer promptly either answering my questions..or just saying what’s up. I think that says alot about these guys and the great community they are trying to maintain. We need to do our part to make this a great place for everyone..and yes..I am guilty of racey blog posts myself…but…they are far more tame than most I have read.
If you want some one to F**k you ass…find someone where you live…or keep that in your personal chats with the guys..not in the blogs. I do however believe in freedom of speech..just try to show respect while you are practicing that!
I love the guys I have met thus far and CCR is one of them..he is a great friend and also makes valid points in his comments..there are some things that need to be more strictly enforced and there are others that need to be lifted a bit…but utimately, I love being here and getting to know people..so as with anything that has rules..I follow them as best I can.
There are far too many guys here that pressure girls for off site communition and that needs to stop..maybe later down the line that might be possible but while I am here..I would prefer not getting booted for chatting off the site. There are plenty of people I’m sure that do…But for me…I would rather not..nothing personal to the guys..but there are rules in place for a reason. Please adhere to them.
I myself love playing and showing my pics..because besides my boobs…I love the body I am in…some girls may not feel the same way and would hope people could understand how they feel. We ALL have feelings and concerns..address us like a person, get to know us and then find out what we are comfortable with.
Sorry so long..just needed to speak I guess. LOL!
Good Job Walter!
Thank you J & J for making all of this possible!
Love, Huggs & Kisses
Jayda..aka Southern Beauty
I think it should be clean everyday. This is how ever not a porn site and if that is what it would take then a lot of us are on the wrong site. I love this just meeting new people and am having fun and I haven’t posted any pictures yet. I will but they will be in good clean style. thank this MFI for making it also possible to meet nice people. HAVE a good Fed 29th!!
I would like to say that MFI is the best site ever created. To Jay & Jason; I know that I had to simple questions for you two. That maybe made you mad, but you know something thanks for putting up with me. I like great guys like yourselves. I feel great being apart of this site. So, great thinking. You guys care. I was very excited to see that men actually do care about women want and what they feel. I’m glad that men are able to donate their money and time. Thanks to all you hotties..Your Awesome! Keep up the good work.
Thanks Walter good idea….Great minds think a like.
XOXO-Verenice
Dang…I like the positivity this article emotes. I missed the day! How about “just one month”, followed by “just one year”?